Together and apart we, the human race, must now choose, and sometimes blaze, ways and paths of
evolving sapiently – that is to say wisely, but wisely for an evolving universal species-wide aim.  We
each participate in evolution, wittingly or unwittingly.  And we have no viable alternative to giving
proper attention to such of what we sense,
after deep reflection, meditation, and synthesis, as
the unchangeable data of our circumstances and the seemingly ineluctable realities of our human
essence.  My thesis is that we can only become aware of what we truly need to know about our
circumstances to participate wisely if each of us is gaining perspective on his or her own particular
'ism', or existential belief, or the nexus of shared suppositions we bring into mind with "I am whatever"
(IAW) statements.  Why?  Because such beliefs are lenses and filters affecting our perceptions.  
Sometimes such beliefs serve us as a species; but sometimes they do not.  
We all need beliefs, of
course, to stay individually sane; but we also need beliefs that embrace more and more of
reality, i.e. growing beliefs, if the species of which we are members is to stay vital.  
And this
is especially true of individual beliefs we insist others hold as to who we, or they, are.

One has a more consciously present knowing of who one is when one finds an answer to the question
“What's happening of urgency or importance to whom?” in which one's own role in what's happening is
not presumed.  For this purpose, you may want to review an essay entitled "
Navigating the Seas of
Judgment: Damned if you do, or damned if you don't?
", by clicking here.  You may also want to
consider the different intents implied by the words "frank", "honest", "
authentic", and "accurate":
Finding your/my/our
'Vital & Vitalizing Truth':
A Process of Accurate Reciprocation?
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Angus Cunningham
Principal, Authentix Coaches

My particular approach to answering accurately the questions "What's happening to whom and why?",
and "
what might be required/best next to happen?" has evolved from utter confusion and massive
anxiety along a path that aspires, still sometimes desperately!, to combine authenticity and empathy
more than is 'usual' today.  It began with my recognition that the word 'accuracy' once meant, in its
original Latin, 'towards a state of caring', i.e. growing beyond being careless.  It continues by inquiring
into those fields of knowing that seem, from my perspective, to hold a key to a fuller coherence with
people, particularly those whom my usual interlocutors seem to be forgetting, and it does not exclude
myself -- although it does not put myself first unless I know I have a strong need or want (but not
taste or preference!) that I have been ignoring.

As my skills in communicating as a writer -- ruminating, articulating, dialoguing -- grow in empathy and
authenticity, my experience has been that I learn that it is possible to conciliate formerly impossible
gaps between our personal interests and desires and the needs of a social whole of whose existence,
and risks of extinction, we only discover as we enlarge and detail our perspectives.  To recognize that
is to recognize that what is practically true emerges for us out of a deliberate effort to balance.  Since
we are creatures largely of habit, I hypothesize that we find what is vital and vitalizingly true by
balancing means that are partly personal and partly collective:
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What I propose by the diagram above is that, to grow our life wisdom for humanity as a whole, we
must keep balancing consciously the instinctual-emotional values of loyalty to family, community,
income-earning organization, political entity, hero, ideology, personality, etc.,
with some new value
we have
rational and reasonable cause to believe will restore equanimity in such relationships as we
can conceive a spiritual potential.  We usually learn, in the ordinary courses of our own particular
experiences of socialization, to adhere in some degree of loyalty to one or more individuals, groups, or
philosophical tenets.  We learn the value of loyalty from recognizing that, in both history and the
expectations of which we are aware in our social lives, heroes are acclaimed at least in part for their
loyalty.  As we mature, unbounded loyalty by others to less than the whole of which we are aware
begins to strike us as hypocritical in our fellows, and in due course, we can expect our fellows to make
us aware of some 'overlooked/unwitting hypocrisy' in ourselves.  When the latter becomes apparent,
many of us encounter depression and/or desperation, and we then are tempted to adopt one or
another of a huge range of either workaholic or cynical attitudes (of which there are many peculiar
variants); or we escape confronting our realities by entertaining fantasies or indulging in mood-altering
habits such as ingesting manufactured food, drink, or drugs, or in other habits that are often called, or
diagnosed, as addictions.  In our attempts to escape the holds of these 'isms' upon our implicit
self-image is there any alternative to each of us discovering a
unique purpose or series of purposes for
his or her individual life?

I believe that discovery of the aim, purposes, and supporting series of goals, that will uniquely fill
whatever void of meaning we each individually have at any moment in time is a way of freeing ourselves
from whatever compulsive racial, ethnic, familial, tribal, national, cultural, or sub-cultural, behaviours or
'isms' still retain a devitalizing hold on us.  Perhaps you agree, and if so, you might want to consider
the idea that discovery of one's unique purposes requires of each of us a counterbalance.  
In other
words we are perpetually in want of a value that balances such habits of loyalty to people or
ideas or icons as we have taken on that have since begun creating trouble for us or others.

What might that counterbalance be?  In my life, discovering answers to "What's happening to whom
and why, and what is next urgently required to happen?
" leads me to discover successively deeper
senses of truth that draw me into coherence with a larger whole than the cultures and sub-cultures
with which I have grown familiar.  Answering this question has helped me find a counterbalance to any
unlimited loyalty to which I have become 'addicted', and prevents me from getting stuck in a
co-dependency.  Answering these questions enlightens my 'natural' loyalties through both a
and a reasonable process and leads me to discover insights to which I would otherwise be 'blind'.

What is your counterbalance to a value, such as loyalty, in which you have demonstrated exceptional
fidelity?  That, of course, is yours to discover.  You can get some further insight into the issue of
counterbalances for the loyalties you have to either people or ideas that are distracting you from
paying attention to your evolving inner compass of truth by exploring the pages at
and Coaching Mediation.  If you have a mandate for organizational leadership or a significant
following as a writer, journalist, media commentator, or author, or if you have interest in
English -- a comprehensive approach to freeing your thinking and communications from
relationship-sabotaging presumption or problem-solving irrationality through Rational
Emoto-Linguistics -- you may want to click on one or another of the navigation bars below:

Toronto, Canada: 080903-150306, excerpted from copyrighted pre-publication manuscripts variously titled
Adventures in Problem-Solving Dialogue", "Defrag!", "Verbundamentally yours!", and by other names.